5 Signs That You Are In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

There is a difference between normal conflict and emotional abuse.

Conflict is healthy in any relationship, it's a normal way to tell your partner about the issue, express it, talk about that and find the solution.

Emotional abuse is non-physical, in which one person degrade another person, insult him, pressurize him through words and emotions, threaten him, blame him, criticize him, belittle him, make him feel ashamed. And it's the worst form of abuse. Because in many cases victims don't realize and feel it's their mistake and they deserved this behaviour. 

While abusive behaviour, no matter what is not acceptable in any scenario. In fact, the person who has emotionally abusive behaviour is not normal, In fact, they won't let you be normal.

Here are some signs that you are in an abusive relationship. Don't trap yourself that "it's not that bad" or "my love and care will change them". In fact, you will be in big trouble and lose your peace of mind in the process. Always remember, you deserve to be treated with respect, care, and kindness.

If you feel frustrated, fearful, depressed, confused, anxious, misunderstood, worthless, chances are high that you are in an abusive relationship. 

1. Isolates You:

An emotionally abusive partner wants you to be their all. They don't understand that you have a life outside this relationship. And going out and socializing is good for you and your health. 

They first try to isolate you and make you depend on them fully. They try to convince you that no one cares about you except them. They don't want that you have someone who can help you emotionally or where you can share your feelings or issues. 

They make you such that isolated by showing rude behaviour to your close ones, friends, and pets that you get sick as you can't speak your heart out.

2. Puts You Down:

When a person puts you down publically or privately, it's a sure sign of an emotionally abusive relationship. They constantly criticize you, argue and oppose you, make fun of you, judge you, shame and blame you, hit your confidence by giving you different names, ignores you, making you doubt yourself, verbally abuse you, attack your intelligence, mental health, looks etc. If later they said that it was a joke or they were in anger don't ever accept that excuse. An abuser does this intentionally. 

It's an obvious sign of an abusive relationship that you feel uncomfortable when they are around. You can't fully enjoy or express your feeling when they are around. 

Never give someone the comfort to treat you poorly.

3. Possessive and Controlling:

Possessiveness in itself is not normal behaviour. Extremely possessive people have a lot of insecurities, fears, low self-esteem, and trust issues which lead them to a desire to control their partner.

They keep an eye on your daily activities, where you go, where are you, who you are with, what are you doing, etc. They monitor you digitally. 

They are overly invested in your social life that you don't feel the freedom to make your own choices. They want access to your phone, email, and social media accounts and want to control your independence. They try to control you and if you don't do what they say, they got angry. 

4. Extremely Jealous:

Jealousy is a form of mental illness and it develops due to poor self-image and a lot of fear and insecurities. A jealous person is in great pain because of this disease not only their mind but the body also suffers a lot. Jealousy is a psychological disorder and never get fooled by their statement that jealousy and envy are a sign of love. It's not, it's a disease and a part of the plan to keep you away from your loved ones and close ones.

They are jealous of you, people around you, and even your goals and dreams too. Jealously is a prominent trait of an abusive person.

They accused you of being unfaithful or of flirting. it's not because you break their trust or you don't give them proper time, it's because they will tell you that in past they have a cheated history that they lost trust in relationships.

5. Volatility :

If someone faces mood swings in a relationship and only one party gets effected, it signals abuse. A volatile abuser often shows affection to their partner, shower them with gifts and later outburst. 

Sometimes they give the silent treatment, ignores you and another day they show much affection. Their emotional condition won't be balanced. You will always be worried and feared about their moods publically and privately. You always care that they won't be hurt or get mad. You don't feel safe and protected in their company nor emotionally and physically.

Educate yourself and others about the abuse. Unfortunately, many educated people don't realize is that they are in an abusive relationship and waste their whole life with an unworthy person and it cost them peace, talent, personality, happiness, and life. It's a very heavy price that it transmits to their children.

Emotional abuse can be in any relation and victims can be both men and women. We often think that emotional abuse can be committed by a man, but women can also be abusive, it goes both ways equally.

These are other signs too but these are basic and starting signs of an emotionally abusive relationship, so whenever you find any sign, don't ignore it ever, take it seriously before it's too late to control.

The purpose of relationships is to grow together, share the ups and downs of life together, to become each other's support and it is possible only when both parties are equally involved, happy, valued, sincere and respected.

Life is so precious, don't let anyone tear it down. Don't let anyone waste you. Your life is your responsibility don't give the remote control of your life to others. Hold the wheel and drive as you want, you will enjoy it more. Love yourself, be kind to yourself.